Your self-worth isn't determined by your relationship status.

Recently, I've been meeting a lot of people who have the mindset that if they aren't dating someone, then they aren't happy and they look down on who they are. I was reading an article the other day that said, "If you are single and feel like you need a significant other to be happy, I am going to be blunt, YOU ARE WRONG. You can't be in a healthy relationship until you are happy independently. Using somebody else as a crutch for your happiness is a one way trip to an unhealthy relationship." This is exactly my thoughts on relationships that I would want to have in my life.

Growing up, I would get down that I didn't date a lot in high school because when you're young and stupid like I very much was, my self-worth was 100% about if someone was interested in me and if there wasn't, I would just be mad about my life and basically just be a drama queen. I just kept thinking, "When I get to college, it won't be long until I get married and THEN I'll be happy." I kept holding out hope that I would be married quickly and that's how I would finally be happy. Oh, how wrong I was indeed.

I've talked about this in past blog posts, but I was not even prepared for what would happen in college. I came here and felt very similar to how I had felt in high school. There weren't boys fighting over me or just randomly coming up to talk to me or walking me to class (yes, those were literally day dreams I had about college and they are very embarrassing to think about in retrospect). And like in high school, I thought that this meant I wasn't pretty or fun or worth it. How sad is that? Just because a random boy didn't ask me out and immediately fall in love with me, I was sad.

After about a year of this way of thinking, I finally realized that I didn't care. Who cares if I'm not dating somebody? I'm freaking AWESOME. I'm loyal, caring, generous, loving, and friendly. I could still be those things without a boyfriend. I found an amazing quote that really said how I feel about all this!
"It's all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate of a self love deficit." - Eartha Kitt

I love this so much. I always believed that love should be two independent people falling in love instead of being dependent on the other.

Find out who YOU are alone than who you are with someone. Develop your own skills and hobbies and find what you love about who you are. When the time is right, someone will come into your life and will recognize in you what you love about yourself. I personally cannot wait for the time to come.

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